Marilyn French (1929-) American author, known for her feminist novels. In her work, French has underlined that women's suppression is an intrinsic part of the male-dominated global culture. French's 1985 "history" of patriarchy, Beyond Power: On Women, Men and Morals, is an impeccably documented examination of the effect of patriarchy on the world; French defines patriarchy as a system of values that holds power and control most important, and rejects life and pleasure as equally -- or MORE -- valuable..
"Marriage accustomed one to the good things, so one came to take them for granted, but magnified the bad things, so they came to feel as painful as a grain in one's eye. An open window, a forgotten quart of milk, a TV set left blaring, socks on the bathroom floor could become occasions for incredible rage. And something happened sexually in marriage --the swearing to forsake all others, despite its slight observance, had a profound effect. Some people felt trapped by it, impelled to assert what they called freedom. Some accepted it like a rein, and in the effort to avoid pain in the form of hopeless desire, cut off occasions of desire, avoided having long talks at parties with attractive members of the opposite sex. In time, all feeling for the opposite sex was cut off, and intercourse limited to the barest politesses. But something happened to you when you did that, a kind of death seeped up from the genitals to the rest of the body, till it showed in the eyes, the gestures, in a certain lifelessness."
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