Impatient with devoting ourselves to the "shoulds," a new vitality springs from within as we approach 30. Men and women alike speak of feeling too narrow and restricted. They blame all sorts of things, but what the restrictions boil down to are the outgrowth of career and personal choices of the twenties. They may have been choices perfectly suited to that stage. But now the fit feels different. Some inner aspect that was left out is striving to be taken into account. Important new choices must be made, and commitments altered or deepened. The work involves great change, turmoil, and often crisis--a simultaneous feeling of rock bottom and the urge to bust out.
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Source Notes: Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life (part 1, "Mysteries of the Life Cycle"; chapter 2, "Predictable Crises of Adulthood") (1976).
Gail Sheehy is an American writer and lecturer, most notable for her books on life and the life cycle. Her second book, Passages, has been called "a road map of adult life". Several of her books continue the theme of passages through life's stages, including menopause and what she calls "Second Adulthood".
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