Oh here is the quote:
Not only does democracy make every man forget his ancestors, but also clouds their view of their descendants and isolates them from their contemporaries. Each man is for ever thrown back on himself alone, and there is danger that he may be shut up in the solitude of his own heart.Tocqueville, Alexis De
No one is in control of your happiness but you: therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
Man's individuality is seduced into a dilution to maintain the greater good.. lest chaos, anarchy and sedition send each assunder. Man is both an island and a particpant but not a common denominator on demand..The solitude of his own heart is his freedom...