this also involves character and integrity in the faith centered life. a professor of mine just did an amazing study of character and how character without integrity is almost impossible. and in order to build character one needs hardship in order to get through the adversities that strengthen our perspectives of how God works in us and in the world around us. I agree too though, that the way we initially react can either make the experience either positive or negative if our first responcse to the circumstance is to re - act badly. We need to be level headed in order to grow.