There is a statement that says "he who doesn't have a dream will always work for the one who does have a dream." That is part of defining who we are. If we don't know what we want and are willing to work hard for it, we are at the mercy of whatever circumstance or whomever comes along. "Do we live a life of obligation or a life of priority?" I would much rather be proactive in life (define who I am) and make my own decisions rather than have them made for me, by someone who doesn't really have my best interests at heart.